Sunday, August 21, 2011

Heart rules but it Hurts !

This is a true story.
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he was born with a silver spoon. With a set of doting parents , affectionate and protective elder Bro, ready to do anything at one wink, her family was an ideal Indian middle class moderate set with values that they and everyone else adored . Her mother was an epitome of love, good nature, which made her sensitive to minutest of the emotion displayed by her. Father's jovial capacity would heal pain of the whole vicinity. Brother was a Diligent, intelligent, calm fellow with only 'solutions' in Life. Later on he went on to become an army personnel- whole nation's pride. Although She was least interested in Brain works. All She would do was that which her heart suggested her to do. All her hobbies like cooking, painting,dancing were taught to make her proficient enough in everything she does. She was sent to the best girl's school. Every birthday, gifts seemed to shower on her. She was spoiled by choice. Over pampering made her a brat. Although, her innate heart-to-heart sense and sensibility covered all.
Growing on she was enrolled in an co-ed affluent College with some of the cream brains, with an intention that she might learn how to use brain instead of heart. Here also, this purpose couldn't be achieved. Instead, straight out of a girls school to the co-ed environment, she lost the sense of limitation. Newly gained freedom set her more free.Scooty which was provided to her for easy locomotion, mobile, which was a luxury at that point of time, she misused both. She could travel and go anywhere, to any limit. This extra freedom harmed her! She fall in love.
Her middle class family was devastated. Not out of sheer shackles of cast and creed, they were frightened, instead they could foresee the 'unstable' future of her which she was completely ignorant of! Instead a thick blind covered her eyes to see anything at all. The family values,reputation, future financial crisis, moral degradation, soul shrieking pain in her Family's heart, she crossed every-thing. Everyone tried to convince her not to fall in a black well. But such is the traits of heart.A Mere graduate , her would-be was an Unemployed youth as well. Future seemed to move towards a thorny oblivion. One fine sunny morning, she eloped!
They got married in a temple. A 21-22 years old couple with no mental-monetary-family stability at all ,thus moved on to live in a one room home, which they thought,one day would turn into a Palace with some magic wand.Then started their strife to build their life, to burn midnight oils in order to make both ends meet. Many days, they would just drink water and sleep. Everyday shelter and good food were the only two ambitions which they could afford to aim at . The girl had reached from riches to rags! He was poor, unemployed yet his nose was longer than their hunger. He would not allow her to work, not even to take home- tutions . Their resources were fast-dilapidated. Works of heart are not always beautiful. In this case it was turning out to be ugly and awful.
All these circumstances had a painful effect on Her parents. They could not see part of their own heart suffer so much. Although , she had broken the set norms, dis-regarded them to the core, He had insulted them in every possible way, yet, She was their little one! Their own daughter. She could not be left alone. With passage of time, some wounds were healed. Her brother, who was by then a gazetted army officer tried his level best to help her. He applied ointment on parent's soaring wounds. He married with a girl of their choice, had a cute little son which made them busy and deviated their minds somewhat.Yet, Parents would sent some help in the form of 'shagun' under the wrapping of festivities and tried to gift her in this way or that. But how long could that petty amount last? With, no source of income in hand at all, situation worsened day by day. But one day, lady fortune seemed to move her wheel through their path.
He got a private banking job. Although this could have solved their maximum problems, yet another set of complexities followed. His parents or her in-Laws appeared on scene, driven by their son's new income anticipation. They were a family with low morale standards. Their tainted reputation involved her mother-in-law having an extra-marital affair.Rumors also said that they had killed their own eldest daughter in law for dowry in the past and painted the case as if it were a mere Burn-accident. Every one in the neighborhood knew the fact but nothing was proved at that point of time since no one in our democracy has guts to open their mouth for the sake of preserving the truth or opposing corruption. Rare people who gather such courage are made to suffer like our very own 'Anna '. Anyways, this family had a crave and deep shelled greed for money. They could do anything, abuse, insult and derogate anyone to extract money.
Family in-law of her involved two elder unmarried and once married brothers working as village school teachers with little income , one elder unmarried sister with a special nose to quarrel , two other married sisters in the same town-who interfered in every second house-hold matter,handicapped Father who was bed-ridden, an unmarried uncle and the matriarchal mother who was the root cause of all negative vibes. Greed seemed to be her panache. They started living together in a bigger house. The real strife thus began now henceforth.
She, who was a darling of her parent's household became a over-pressurized daughter-in-law. Not only her guilt of marrying with her choice but also not bringing in dowry was her crimes which made her a constant target of sarcasm and acquisitions of the whole family and specially her mom-in-law.Heavy Daily chores were heaped upon her along with nursing her father-in-law. She did everything bent with shame,with a little strike of hope that her unconditional service and patience will one day melt their hearts. But she did not knew that there existed No heart at all.With social contacts and good social stature of her biological family, she was able to get her sister-in-law married pompously, her brothers-in law well settled in their respective new jobs and her father-in-law medically treated in a good hospital. This softened her in-laws somewhat yet her daily insults,thrashings, abuse never stopped. Husband's job was lost within a year due to his whim,rigidity and short temperaments. She was forced to abort a child. Torture seemed to reach its climax everyday and yet start its new journey afresh .Eight years passed on.
All her timidity acquired the shape of coarse bitter taste on her buds. She was tortured to the core. Husband tried his level best to earn in all possible traits, from opening a coaching institute to start up construction business, to selling distilled water, he tried everything. Only consequence which he met was 'failure'! To quench the needs, he allowed his wife to get a degree in a professional course,that too with the financial aid of her own parents. She did and she out shined him as was quite expected. She got a distinction and government job of a Program manager simultaneously. For once in her life, she prioritized brain over heart and many of their problems were finished.
Yet , with this achievement what emerged was the conscious, the dignity and the confidence, which she had never allowed in her persona to come into the forefront.She began believing in herself. She refused getting abused and threatened everyday. Although her money was a big support to her extended family, yet it was not given due importance at all. Instead, they continued acquiescing her; of course with new derogatory reasons. Even her husband who was the sole person, depending upon whom she made her life a hell, tortured her!Everything has some end, but her misery seemed to ride an express train with no stoppage at all.
One fine day , She revolted. She packed her few medical reports, her marriage certificate which was not authentically certified by law even, and few necessary belongings. As expected her husband and in-laws forcibly opposed. After a heated abusing-argument-quarrel session, she was thrashed and dragged in front of all neighborhood.He suspected on the character of the girl which is the most common thing that happens and even she alleged him of having an affair elsewhere. She called up her parents, who were also slammed and abused. All limits of civilizations crossed, finally her parents snatched her and returned back home. The tumultuous life was paused for a while.
Nonetheless, after two month of separation, she started analyzing.There were two paths that she could tread upon. One , which was suggested by her Brother, who was by then boiling with rage over the issue,that of taking divorce and getting married elsewhere. She needed to move out of the town, to revamp her destiny. He would arrange for anything. All that was needed was her single nod and that family would be dragged to the court. Defense service teaches you to fight with external enemies, but how to fight with the devil s hidden within, he knew not! Also, she could continue her job or seek a new one with a 2 year experience in hand by now and lead a dignified life, safe and secure. Second way was to again go and reconcile with them, hiding all her self-esteem and stooping low. Although, all her biological relatives favored first and tried to abstain her from pursuing the second path, yet her Indian Girl's mentality, attracted to the second route only.
Right from the ancient Indian lore, a daughter is supposed to enter a marital life once and to leave it only after she is dead and cremated. The mediocrity of this thinking is so strong that it is the cause of maximum vices that daughters face specially if they prefer Heart over Brain. Such was the case with her. She wished to reconcile- although with much opposition from her kith and kins, she thought to give the second path a last trial.
This Sunday, she returned back, although with Pre-complaint application filed in the police station that if something happens to her, in-laws would be responsible. Yet how right is this path? where will it lead her to? There is no ray of hope that is left. Social dilemmas which she is fearing would appear if she takes a divorce, have already been broken into pieces. Strings of love and soft emotions are all cut many aeons ago.
Everyone is nothing but helpless in this situation. Near and dear ones strongly want her two follow first route but she cannot be forced,and how does it matter? She has been following her heart, but is such an innocent chase destined to turn so pathetic?
Such is life if a balance is not stroked in between . If only some some hope , strength and will could be conveyed or lent to her, things could be quite different.

What Do you all think?

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